Desire a new Miracle? Transfer Your current Understanding.

Losing is painful. It doesn’t matter what – employment, a promotion, your health, a partner, a spouse – it’s painful. Sure, the pain is greater, the higher losing, but if we lose something, we feel it deeply.

A friend of mine, a trial lawyer by trade, recently lost a huge case. He’s not in the habit of losing trials, for him this is a most unusual experience best acim podcasts. But what intrigued me was his attitude about it: “I can easily see where I made some mistakes. I am aware it’s hindsight and all that, but I seriously misjudged how a jurors would look at certain facts. I can’t await my next trial – I involve some thoughts on what I really could have inked differently, and I want to observe how they’ll play out.”

His is an optimist’s attitude. A miracle-making attitude. One that practically guarantees success. Oh, maybe don’t assume all time, but more often than not. It is well established that optimists succeed beyond their actual aptitude and talents – all due to their attitude.

Many lawyers, in his position, would have expended their efforts laying blame somewhere: on opposing counsel for underhanded tricks, on the Judge for being biased toward another side, on the jurors for “not getting it,” on their trial team for being inefficient, or on themselves. My friend, however, simply assessed his work, figured out the thing that was missing, and was rarin’ to go on another trial – so he could yet again, win.

All it took was a shift in perception, what Marianne Williamson* defines as “a miracle.” Or, to my means of thinking, a shift in perception (how you begin to see the loss) lays the groundwork for magic, for something to happen that’ll be better than the thing that was expected. By moving off the blame-game, and choosing instead to learn from the ability (the shift in perception), my friend put himself back on the success track.

When you look at your loss, whatever it is, as permanent and all-encompassing, then sure enough, you’ll feel devastated and struggling to let go and move on. If, on the contrary, you appear at your loss – be it the loss of employment, a spouse, a consumer, your savings – as temporary, something to learn from – then odds are excellent that you will have a way to move on to better yet things; to a “miracle.”

The sole change is in the way you perceive the function, the loss. And that, unlike losing itself, is completely within your control. Buck against it though we might, we could always control what we think. No, it’s definitely not easy. I find it requires considerable effort to move my thoughts off the comfort of wound-licking and self-pity to thoughts that’ll generate a much better future. But it’s doable.


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